I really can’t argue with you going with your gut feeling.  And yes I do believe that either my husband or I should be available for the kids as much as we can manage but I think my point is that I would be shocked if people asked the same questions of a man.  It doesn’t seem fair to question her devotion as a Mom when we never question potential male candidates on their devotion or responsibility as a Dad.

I work and dont stay at home with My children,but after my job hour i give them right discipline and knowledge and also manner.and they are well cultured.so i think to give a child proper discipline a mother shouldnot need to stay 24 hr with them but give a proper discipline in 1 or 2 hour.

Nancy-  I guess we will have to agree to disagree!  I consider being pro-life a matter about children and not about women and that’s why I consider myself pro-life and a believer in equal rights for women but I can see why people think otherwise and they have every right to their opinion!!!  But you are right those feminists you mentioned have brought us to the point we are at today and do deserve our thanks.
becky

I’m not sure any woman who is opposed to sex education in the schools or who would deign to make family planning decisions the government’s domain could possibly be a true feminist.  Feminists believe women should make these choices apart from what men or government leaders would allow.  Women had few rights before the feminsts began their over 100 year campaign to gain equality for women—- they could not vote, could not serve on juries, could not attend college, could not own property in many states, could not have leadership positions in the church or government, could not charge a man with rape, could not play on the boys’ teams and it was unheard of for women to have their OWN team.  SO, FEMINISTS from Elizabeth Cady Stanton to Gloria Steinem deserve our thanks!!

What should a parent do with this situation that has recently surfaced… goto youtube and type in Real Father of Palins daughters unborn child… heres a hint..its supposedly not the one we have seen on TV

Martina and Becky - I’d vote for either of you over Sarah or Hillary.  I believe both are strong women with lots of education, but both have put career before kids ... and I don’t mean by choosing to work.  I work, BUT unlike many hollywood stars and politicians ... I keep my laundry clean.  I would not air my problems out in public for my family to have to endure such criticism ... ie Bill not being able to keep his zipper up ... and Rudy the new self-professed master of keeping America safe… he failed NY and his wife, but somehow I should believe this election is still about security and anything he says is worth hearing.  Problems aren’t always ones we should be judged by, but how we prioritize and correct them are usually a big statement about who we are.  What bothers me about many politicians is their inability to say “I was a jerk ... a horrible person ... forgive me.“  They use words like “indiscretions “, “misunderstanding”,  and “errors in judgement” to account for their screw-ups.  Here is how I look at that.  IF your screw-up effects my life (sending troops, economy decisions) - then YOU BETTER BE READY TO FIX IT.  IF your screw-up effects your family ... I have a hard time giving you my trust or my respect or my vote.

Whether Sara stays at home or becomes VP is not the issue for me ... 1st I’ll say that I believe her 5th child is really Bristol’s.  Scoff if you like, but her 4 to 5 month absence from school for mono, the size of her chest right now is a sign she’ breast feeding, and the fact that Sara didn’t announce she was pregnant till a few weeks before she delivered are too much for me to swallow.  I work with a lot of women and we know withing about 3 or 4 months - her staff didn’t even believe it after she told them. 

What I judge her by is that she says her water broke at 4:00 am.  She’s 44 and her baby was diagnosed with down’s syndrome when she was 4 months pregnant with a fifth child.  After her water broke while in Texas at a conference, she stayed through lunch to give the keynote speech.  Then, instead of her husband and her rushing to a hospital there, she boarded a public plane without informing them she was pregnant or in labor and took a 8 to 12 hour flight with a stop over and then drove an hour to her small town hospital in Alaska.  I don’t know any woman who would make such a risky set of decisions for her health and the health of a child she was a proponent of having because she’s pro-life.  Now, I can’t believe she is that stupid, so I will conclude that it was her daughter who was in labor with her first giving birth the next morning.  Good woman to give her daughter the love and help she needs, bad woman to put the speech over being there through the whole thing ... if you think the story unbelievable ... and the baby is Sarah’s ... then very poor decision maker risking the life of a child over her career.  Not taking time off for maternity leave ... odd only if it’s her child.  Now Bristol pregnant again, must try to be an adult in front of the world ... I’m sure it would not have been so if Sarah were simply the successful Governor she was.

John McCain - cheated on a wonderful first wife for 8 months running around publically with Cindy McCain.  He left his wife and then married Cindy 5 months later.  Cindy’s response to her part in that adultery ... it’s a private matter ... and they prettied it up for the convention and made him out to be a man larger than life who has always put his country first ... just not his family. 

Cite me an indiscretion that Obama has had ... a time when he chose a speech over an important moment in his child’s life and I will think very ill of him too.  God has taught me to do so.

Look at Joe Biden’s life with his family - you’ll find a man you can respect.  His first wife and infant child died in a car crash.  It crippled him mentally.  He had just one a senate nomination, but he chose being in the hospital with his 2 sons who survived to being in the public light at that moment.  He comes home every day.  Family first.

If you were only given the choice of 3 men to marry in character and actions and how they treat their family, not looks - Obama,Joe or McCain.

I believe McCain offered his wife up for Miss Buffalo Chip a month ago.  Google that.  Feminist or not, I’d like my husband to respect me and put me first.  If Sarah’s husband did - he wouldn’t have let her give that speech or get on a plane ... if she respected her daughter, she wouldn’t be dragging her through this in the Britney Spears media eye.  Imagine the exhaustion and range of hormonal emotion Bristol must be having right now ... especially if this turns out to be a second pregnancy.  She shines more than Sarah for me - she has taken on more.  She hold Trig like a mother would, comforts him and is obviously the one bonding each day.  That will become more a reality as the STRAIGHT TALK Express travels the country without baby Trig and a daughter in her 2nd trimester.

I disagree that children need a woman more or specifically but I really can’t argue with you going with your gut feeling.  And yes I do believe that either my husband or I should be available for the kids as much as we can manage but I think my point is that I would be shocked if people asked the same questions of a man.  It doesn’t seem fair to question her devotion as a Mom when we never question potential male candidates on their devotion or responsibility as a Dad.
P.S. My husband is like yours- my family says I got lucky- I just say I got what I asked for!

Parents are always dedicated towards their children. I liked this passage.

Hi, I agree and disagree with your post. I feel exactly like you do - I never even considered being less than equal with men. On the other hand, now that I have children, I feel very much that they need me. While my husband is very involved in our childrens’ upbringing and really spends a lot of time with them (and he does 50% or more of the household chores), we both feel - and that’s just a gut feeling, no rational thought behind it - that our children need ME in times of crisis or sickness or even for emotional support. I don’t have proof, but I could imagine that someone has got to get the short end of the stick if a woman has 5 children AND is running for VP. For me, that doesn’t have anything to do with feminism or equal opportunities, it’s just simply a human issue: how much can you handle? Even if her husband was a stay-at-home-dad and had help, I think 5 kids incl. an infant with down syndrom and a pregnant teenager are too much too handle for any one person, leave alone trying to do your job as well.